The Fallacy of Pursuing Happiness

Happiness. Such a great feeling, right? We all search for happiness in our lives, but are we searching too hard for it? I’m guilty of reading far too many books on the idea of ‘happiness.’ They all taught me one thing:


hap·pi·ness /ˈhapēnəs/
1. the state of being happy.

hap·py /’hapē/
1. feeling or showing pleasure or contentment.

Happiness is a fleeting. It allows you to truly enjoy what is happening at the time of experiencing that emotion. You must stop searching for ‘happiness’ and allow it to happen; naturally. Happiness, like any other emotion, does not exist in a constant state, and the search for a constant state of ‘happiness’ can be detrimental to you and those around you. This is something that took me a while to learn.

Everyone has their peaks and valleys. This is completely natural. No one is constantly ‘happy’. Even if that were a thing, would you want it? How sad would it be to only experience happiness? I know that last sentence seems a little arrogant, but let me explain. When happiness is the baseline, you have nowhere to go from there. Many of the happiest moments in my life were aided heavily by some type of negative emotion I was previously experiencing. The negative feelings made ‘feeling happy’ that much better. It’s the give-and-take, the ebb-and-flow, that makes living life so beautiful.

Too much of one thing is never any good. Happiness included.



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